They have lied to you, and by “they” I mean you. You have been lying to yourself. There is no prize for suffering. Stop suffering. Change your life. This is the only life you have, contrary to some claims. I am not sure how it happens from time to time, that we persuade ourselves there would be a prize for suffering. Interested parties on occasion try to build whole moral systems on this error. Think certain strands of Christianity.
I refuse to suffer. Right now I am drinking Pina Colada. Under palm trees. In the sun. Not in the rain. I am not a fan of rain.
They have lied to you. There is no prize for suffering.